Finding Forgiveness and Restoration
By Cindy Beall
Interview With Cindy Beall:
I’m so excited to interview Cindy Beall on my blog today. Cindy is the wife of Chris Beall, a campus pastor for lifechurch.tv. Years ago, Chris came home early from work to confess adultery to Cindy.
Could you tell us a little about your story and how God restored your marriage?
In February, 2002, my husband confessed to me that he’d been unfaithful to me over a 2 1/2 year period. He
went on to tell me that all of this stemmed from an addiction to pornography. If that wasn’t bad enough, the final blow about killed me: One of the women was pregnant and he was pretty sure he was the father. That confession was nearly 10 years ago. By trusting in God and allowing Him to restore us, we are better than ever. We are best friends. We truly have a healthy marriage that God uses to impact other marriages.
How has your husband shown you true repentance and helped to restore trust?
He has walked in godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow. Worldly sorrow is usually just sorry you got caught and wants your spouse to “just get over it”. Godly sorrow is truly repentant and is broken over hurting the heart of God and those you love in your life. My husband made a complete turn around and desperately wanted our marriage to survive. Nothing in his life is off limits to me. He is not defensive and goes above and beyond to protect my heart and mind.
Have you ever regretted the decision you made to stay with your husband?
Not once. I sought God and heard Him speak to my heart to be a part of the redemptive work in my husband’s life. Little did I know, my life would be transformed as well.
Many times women are counseled to stay in a marriage where the husband has committed adultery and have faith for God to change him. Do you believe there’s times when a women should divorce her husband even if he says he’s willing to work it out?
I believe the Bible is clear about adultery – it is grounds for divorce. But, I also believe that with the right hearts, minds and attitudes, God can use it as an opportunity for restoration and a new marriage.
Why did you write this book?
I wrote this book to provide hope to those who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. I wrote it to share all that God has done in our life. I wrote it to bring glory to God through the most awful circumstance I’ve ever faced.
Thank you, Cindy. You can find Cindy Beall on Twitter, Facebook, and her blog.
Facebook: Cindy Beall
Now onto the book she wrote.
A few days after an ordinary Valentine’s Day, Cindy Beall’s life changed forever. She listened with disbelief to her husband, Chris, a respected pastor, confess to pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the startling news that a woman was pregnant with his child.
With raw honesty and intimate knowledge of pain and of God’s power to resurrect something new out of the debris of betrayal, Cindy reveals how to:
- seek guidance, counseling, and prayer support when deceptions surface
- help the family heal from the grief and humiliation
- rebuild trust after porn, sex, and other addictions undermine a relationship
- protect a marriage from lies and unfaithfulness
- rely on God to pursue forgiveness and move forward in new promises
Cindy’s compassion, grasp of God’s Word, and the Bealls’ remarkable story will help wives and husbands trust God with their broken hearts and follow His leading, hope, and redemption.
Foreword by Craig Groeschel, bestselling author and senior pastor of LifeChurch.tv.
My Review: ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
I’ve never gone through the pain of adultery or having my trust in my husband broken, but I am currently ministering to someone who is going through this crisis. To tell the truth, I didn’t know how to help or what to say – until I read this book. This book helped me understand the emotions she was going through so I could be there for her. I highly recommend it to anyone going through this crisis in their marriage. It will help you.